WOMEN- DAUGHTER, WIFE AND MOTHER

Women....ALLAH's most wonderful and cherished creation....bukan perasan tetapi a fact....they are both strong and weak at the same time...wonder why i said that kan? strong because come what may, they will strive tetapi weak in a sense because when they LOVE , they love unconditionally and be blinded by it..the unconditional LOVE given are at times taken for granted.

...painfull as it is but I have to admit its true....when WE women LOVE, be it our husbands or boyfriends we give everything, we swallow everything with the hope that the love given would be reciprocated and that harmony is maintained....

...but men just dont understand us.....they dont understand how much it hurts... when the trust given is betrayed...when loyalty expected from them by women is thrown down the drain.....when the love u profess to them not so long ago seems to dissapear........when nothing they do is ever right anymore or enough......when no words r spoken and what is left is mere silence......

We live in societies where there is an overload of "what a woman must do for her husband"and it is not balanced with information about what a husband must and can do for his wife - men forget, society lets them and society consists of both men and women. Such lingo and talk need a more important and prominent place in our daily lives.

I read this article in the net recently by Sherif Mohammad entitled "Advice to Husbands, From a Husband"....so true.....

He started his advive by talking about the inscription on a toombstone of one of an army officer who died during the El Alamein battle in Northern Egypt on the summer of 1942 by his wife. It reads as follows:-

"To the world, you were just a soldier. But to me, you were the whole world"

He went on by saying that by getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From the day you married her, your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears.

When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you. When you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be her. During the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you, physically, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul. When you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams.

In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world.

The closeness of the spouses to each other was also mentioned in the Quran: " They are your garments and you are their garments"

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable.

The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of God. Only God Almighty in His infinite power, boundless mercy, and great wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact, God is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe, that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence.

As He says in the Quran: "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect."

But the human heart is not a static entity, it is very dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides.

I re-read the article over and over again and my fear of commitment surge to greater heights....I am so afraid....so so afraid.......Afraid to be in love, Afraid to trust, Afraid to commit, Afraid to open up......sigh.........

P/S : To Men out there: Please dont take the women in your life for granted.....LOVE & Cherish them.....

The Inevitable Bumps in the Road

"Jika bersedih hati, panggillah jiwamu dengan harapan sebagai janji kerana kebaikan bagi jiwa adalah adanya janji,
jadikanlah harapanmu sebagai perisai atas serangan putus asamu hingga waktu waktu akan menghapus kesedihan itu
tutuplah dirimu terhadap orang yang sering duduk bersamamu kerana mereka selalu iri dan mendengki
tidak perlu bimbang akan berlaku sesuatu, sebab ini akan membuat orang yang hidup mati sebelum kematian itu sendiri
kesedihan itu tak akan kekal, seperti juga kesenangan tidak akan kekal
seandainya bukan kerana hal yang mempengaruhi jiwa, pasti tidak akan ada hidup yang lurus bagi orang yang terjaga".....Don't Be Sad by Dr. Aidh Abdullah Al Qarni.

Allah tidak akan membebani seseorang melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya. Surah Al Baqarah:286

"Manusia tidak akan mampu melawan setiap bencana, menaklukkan setiap derita dan mencegah setiap malapetaka dengan kekuatan sendiri. Kerana manusia adalah makhluk yang sangat lemah. Mereka hanya mampu mengahadapi semua itu hanya dengan bertawakkal kepada Allah; percaya sepenuhnya kepada pelindungnya, dan menyerahkan semua perkara kepadaNya. Kerana jika tidak demikian, jalan keluar mana lagi yang akan ditempuhi manusia yang lemah tidak berdaya ini semasa menghadapi ujian serta cubaan"....tafsiran dari Surah Al Maidah:23
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Something happened last Friday that made me feel so hurt and sad...so hurt that i cried buckets...now thinkin about it still brings tears to my eyes . I've never cried that profusely before....how could they do that to me.....what have i ever done to them that desrves this.....how will i survive..why are they so mean....i have given my all and is this what the give me in return.why do they hate me that much........these questions keep repeating in my mind......when i think of what those people said and would say I cried louder........I just can't stop my tears....Its like a burst dam......... Those closest to me panicked...nothin anyone said made the pain and hurt go away...nothin...I felt numb and betrayed...All i wanted to do is cry...role down and die.......In my maker I turn and to him I pour my sorrows and hurt...I found peace and that made it a bit bearable.....

I am slightly more composed now than I was that nite......as usual if anything bad happened I would go cut my hair.... I went to Saw in KLCC...had Edwin the director to cut my hair..shorter than it was before and i am very satisfied with the result....I did my padicure and manicure in the Nail Shoppe and my facial in SKII.....than it was retail therapy all the way....new working clothes from Cultivation, shoes from the high end Vincci, clothes from Nicci, new pair of jeans from Giordano... I even brought new undergarments from Marks & Spenser.....very costly therapy but I am happi........costly retail therapy I know....but at least when I go to the office on Tuesday I would look so good that people would drool and salivate.........akan ada yang bergossip tetapi ingatlah setiap umpatanmu itu pahala bagi ku.......Allah itu maha pemyayang and akan sentiasa memaafkan umatnye tetapi kesilapan manusia terhadap manusia yang lain tidak terampun selagi tidak diampuni oleh orang yang disalahi........I am being very vengeful but how not to? Like what Donald Trump said in his book "Think Big and Kick Ass"......."when someone screw you , you screw them back in spades"..this means when someone hits you, hit em back...HARDER...Likewise a piece of good advice from his wife Ivana...."don't get even...get everything".

I also re-read "Jangan Bersedih" hence the extract from the book as preliminary for this entry....I will not let this be a stumbling block and would use this to be better. I will walk softly and carry a big attitude....

In Him I trust my fate. I made a promise to Him and to myself that I will be strong...I will not cry. I will not let them have the satisfaction of seeing me cry...never ever....I will not loose hope....come what may insyaalah I know that everything will be ok....... It hurts a lot now, that i can't deny and I am trying to not let it effect me so.......My war has began....my faith in ALLAH as my guide and with the love of my family and those few whom i trust, I will survive this and i will prevail......